THANK YOU! Thank you so much for dumping my ass. I was a codependent and needy girlfriend. I was suffering greatly from anxiety and depression and thought I needed you to be happy. After the breakup, I let you drag me along thinking we would end up together. I reached my lowest low when I was contemplating suicide and crying myself to sleep every night, hoping that I wouldn’t wake up the next day. You’d already moved on and I was completely alone. Then I crashed my car, accepted my death, and thought of you. My last thought would have been of you!? I was lucky enough to be knocked unconscious and wake up in a pancake that used to be my car, crawl out the other side and continue to live. That was my turning point. I learned so much from being with you. If someone even slightly reminded me of you, I stopped talking to them. I’ll never do everything for something and leave nothing for myself anymore. I grew up. I got my shit together, got an amazing job, decided what I want to do with my life, became happy all on my own. I was always jumping from guy to guy, looking for approval (queue daddy issues), but now I can say I am happy with me, and oh, I just happen to have a boyfriend too. Everything is give and take with us. But this isn’t about him, although now because of you, I have been a great girlfriend to him for almost a year. I realized my worth, and I love myself more than I ever could have before. Thank you for forcing me to get help for my anxiety and depression. I am so healthy and you were that push I needed. I wish all the best for you. I hope you find a girlfriend like me. (Ha!) But you know what I mean. I hope she’s strong and independent and challenges you like I couldn’t then. And I hope you treat her right. I hope you appreciate her, and open up to her like you never could with me.
In this gut-wrenching talk, Sergeant Andrew Chambers shares the haunting story of his time in Iraq and the tough transition home that landed him in jail. It’s a powerful testimony to the struggle our soldiers face when they come home, and the tragic ways that they can be denied the help they need.
For anyone looking to support a veteran, we encourage you to heed Chambers’ advice: "Find a veteran and listen to his story. A lot of us just need somebody to talk to."
Happy Veteran’s Day.
And if you do decide to listen, please don’t:
- ask them if they have hurt or killed anyone.
- try to compare their story to something you experienced or tie everything back to someone else’s experience, (i.e. “My second cousin is a Marine, he said …” ) Everyone’s experience is different.
- Know when someone needs help and it’s something out of your control. If your veteran friend needs psychiatric assistance or counseling and admits it to you, encourage them to seek help from a professional. And then keep encouraging and supporting them to go each time. Support them for as long as it takes.
- Look into what resources your campus offers, and be aware of where they are. Many of us who have remained in the academic environment for a long time are used to know about your course catalogue, advising offices, how to get an override, etc. Many returning veterans who are used to being more independent may find some of this daunting and massively overwhelming. Offer to walk with them to the office if they seem frustrated.
And most importantly:
- Truly listen. If a veteran trusts you with their story, it is very, very significant to them. Opening up can be very difficult for some veterans and you should never try to pressure or push someone into talking about something they are not comfortable talking about yet. Be patient. Keep your ears open. Tell them that at the very least, they can know you are there if they need.
this is why I want to go into military psychology. this is why I’m so interested in doing research on PTSD. so we can help people like this man, who didn’t get the help he needed when he asked for it.
102 chicken nuggets
why would you order 17 of 6 instead of 5 of 20… that shit’s expensive as hellGetting 2 four pieces is cheaper then 1 6 piece know your nuggets
but getting 1 20 piece is cheaper than 3 6 pieces KNOW YOUR NUGGETS
this is how word problems for math books are started, isn’t it.